Asking someone for money is hard, and you want to do it as politely as possible.
Different situations might arise when you ask for money from someone else, and each of these requires a different tone and approach.
In this article, I will show you:
- How to ask someone for money politely if they owe you money
- How to ask someone for money politely when you’re asking for yourself
- How to ask your parents or relatives for money
- How to ask a friend for money.
- And how to ask for money from someone you don’t know well.
As you can see, there are different scenarios for asking for money from others, and in this article, I’ll show you how to ask for money in every one of them, with examples.
Here we go:
How to ask someone for money politely (When they owe you)
The first scenario is when you’re asking for money that someone owes to you.
Asking someone to pay back the money they owe is a delicate matter, and it needs a careful approach.
Here are some strategies on how to ask someone for money politely:
1. Be calm about your request
If you want to ask for the money you’re owed, take a breath and relax. You don’t want to appear desperate or needy – you only want what’s yours!
By doing this, you can avoid any awkwardness that might arise. The other person who owes you money might feel bad about it, and you don’t want that.
If you can, try to book your meeting at a coffee shop or any other place where you can talk comfortably. Depending on the amount they owe you, book a meeting for an hour or two to discuss the details.
They might tell you they are broke and have no cash right now or that they can’t pay you back. That’s okay! You will find out what they will do for you in exchange for the money.
2. Do not force the recipient
We often need to ask someone for money because of an emergency or some other situation that’s beyond our control.
Do not force the person if they don’t want to pay you back right away if this is the case. Maybe they are short on cash now, so try offering them a payment plan instead of expecting your money right away.
It is essential to be upfront about the repayment date and the amount of money you’ll pay each month.
3. Don’t be afraid to ask for time
If someone owes you money but can’t give it back to you right now, don’t feel bad about asking if they can give it back to you at a later date.
Offering an alternative way of repayment might be the best choice for all parties involved: the beneficiary doesn’t have that much urgency, and the person who owes them can pay them back in their own time.
By doing this, you will avoid any bad blood that might arise because of the situation.
4. Be straightforward and don’t beat around the bush
Finally, when you’re asking someone for money that they owe you, be direct.
Be clear about how much money they owe and why they owe it to you (if relevant). You’ll avoid some awkwardness and get a better reaction from the other person if you’re straightforward.
After all, it’s your money, and you deserve to know when you will get it back.
5. Be Stern, not confrontational
Another way to ask someone for money politely is to show that you’re serious about the situation. It’s important not to be confrontational, but don’t beat around the bush – ask for what you want.
Here are some things you could say:
“You owe me this amount of money and I need it back ASAP.” or “I’m asking you for this amount of money and I need it back by this date.”
Doing this will show that you’re serious about the situation and get a better reaction from the other person.
6. Accept that they may not pay the money
Humans are unpredictable creatures, and that’s why it doesn’t hurt to prepare yourself for the worst.
You might ask someone for money politely, but they might not give you what you want on time or even say no. If this happens, accept it and move on with your life.
Also, keep in mind that they might give it to you later or in installments.
When you prepare for the worst, you won’t become bitter or sad about it.
Not only will you lose the respect of the person who owes you money, but they might not want to work with you in the future. A reaction like this will only make your life difficult – so avoiding these kinds of responses is necessary when asking for money politely.
Now that you know how to ask someone for money politely when they owe you, let’s look at the following scenario:
How to ask someone for money politely (when borrowing)
Here is how to ask someone for money politely as a borrower:
1. Have a plan in place
The first step to asking someone for money as a borrower is to have a plan in place. This can include:
- Knowing how much you want and when you want the money by (a specific date).
- The best way or time to ask them.
- What might happen if they say yes/no, etc.
- How do you plan to repay the money?
By having everything in place, you’ll ensure that there are no hiccups with your request.
2. Ask for the money at the right time
When you ask someone to lend you money, it’s essential to do so at the right time. If they have financial problems themselves, it might be best to wait until they have recovered before asking them for money.
By doing this, you’ll avoid creating tension between yourself and the person who owes you money, making it easier to ask them politely and get a positive response.
This might also increase your chances of getting the money you need when you need it since they are in a better financial position.
3. Explain why you need the money clearly
You might find it difficult to ask someone for money if you don’t know what you want to use it for.
If this is the case, make sure you explain why money is necessary and how it will help your life. You could even show them a plan of how you’ll repay the loan or some document confirming your financial situation so that they have more incentive to help you.
This will increase the chances of getting a positive or even “yes” response since they will see how important it is for you to get the money when you ask them politely.
4. Call instead of texting
I know that calling someone might feel strange or complicated, especially when asking for money.
But by calling the person instead of sending a text message or a borrowing letter, you’ll be able to explain yourself better and express your feelings (and therefore emotions) more clearly.
You will read their reaction more efficiently, which will be better for you in the long run.
It is also a sign of respect to call someone instead of texting them, so you should take advantage of that.
5. Use an emotional tone
To ask someone for money politely, it’s best not to sound rude or angry. This will only make things tenser and more challenging for you to accomplish your goal.
If you’re emotional when asking someone for money, people might feel bad about themselves and want to avoid the situation altogether by saying “no.”
Using a tonality that is neither mean nor too kind will be more likely for them to give you the money you need or want.
6. Be honest and open
When you’re asking someone to lend or give you money, it’s essential, to be honest, and open about your financial situation.
If they don’t know what’s going on in your life, how will they know whether what you ask is reasonable?
People might feel less awkward and more likely to help you out by being open about your situation.
How to ask your parents or relatives for money politely
It’s difficult to ask your parents or family for money if you feel like they will say no because you’re “too young” or “not responsible enough.”
However, this might also be the perfect time to show them you are responsible and more grown-up than they think.
Here is how to ask your parents or relatives for money politely:
1. Wait for a good time to ask them
When asking someone in your family for a loan, it might be a good idea to wait until they are in a good mood and relaxed before going ahead with the question. Otherwise, they might say something like, “I don’t have cash right now,” which means you’ll have to wait even longer for them to help you.
2. Show them you’re responsible and mature
If your parents or relatives think you need training before handling money, show them how mature and responsible you are by asking them for a loan. Please prove that you can look after the cash properly by offering them a plan about how you’ll repay the money or a document confirming your financial situation.
3. Be honest and open with them
When asking parents for money, it’s essential to be honest and open about your finances instead of hiding them from them. This will make things easier in the end, since they will know what is going on in your life and will be more likely to understand why you need money.
4. Call instead of texting
I know that this might feel strange, but calling someone instead of sending a text message is better since it allows you to read their reaction better. It’s also respectful for older people to call them instead of messaging them. Take advantage of that.
5. Ask politely and with respect
When asking parents for money, it’s essential to be polite towards them. This will make them want to help you more and even lend you the money if they think it’s reasonable. Use a tonality that isn’t too aggressive or mean but “in-between.”
6. Be patient when asking
Last, it’s essential to be patient when asking for money from parents or relatives. This will help you avoid any unnecessary argument since there is no reason for them to say no. Wait until they can lend you the money and try again if they refuse at first.
Patience, as they say, pays off!
How to ask a friend for money politely.
When it comes to asking for money from friends, the most important thing is your friendship.
Even though friends are “supposed” to help each other, asking them for money is difficult if you don’t feel like your friendship is strong enough.
Here is how to get out of that situation:
1. Put it in writing
It is essential to have a contract between you and your friend. Ask them to write the money they’ve lent you on this contract, or vice versa if it’s you who lend money to them.
This will help avoid any trouble in the future since you wrote all the details of your agreement on paper.
It is also a sign that you will pay the money back and that you respect your friend.
2. Set rules before asking for money
Another excellent tip for asking friends for money is to set some rules beforehand. For example, you can agree that your friend will give you the money back in one month or two.
This will help both of you since it gives you time to get this “money thing” done and gives them time to prepare their wallet! 😉
Friends are always there for you, so don’t be afraid to ask them for help!
3. Ask for money in person
Sometimes it is good to call or text your friend to ask for money, but the most efficient way is always to do it in person.
When you ask them face-to-face, they’ll be able to see your face and read your emotions, giving them more clues about what’s going on in your life. They’ll also feel you trust them more since this is a personal conversation.
4. Don’t take it as a favor
When you ask your friend for money, please don’t take it as a favor. Maybe they’ll refuse to lend you some, and that’s okay because there is no need to feel bad about this situation!
It is just the way things go, and we can’t always get what we want.
It would be best if you try again later once you’ve prepared yourself for their answer. There is no need to feel embarrassed about it.
5. Be clear about your needs for money
When asking your friend for the first time, be clear about how much money you need and what you will use it for exactly.
This will avoid any confusion and misunderstanding in the future.
You don’t need to be too detailed as they might feel guilty, but give them a general idea to prepare themselves mentally for this money talk!
Try to plan before asking for this sort of help since it will help you get your friends on your side!